"A Special Day"
Wedding anniversaries are always special. Perhaps even more these days with marriages ending in divorce with what seems like a lack of commitment on behalf of many couples. We give up so easily when things don’t ‘go to plan’ falling out of love at a whim! So celebrating another year together is always something to cherish, certainly something to be proud of. The stress of modern day living can throw-up distractions that can lure us away from what is truly important. For many of us, we say our wedding vows in the throe’s of love and passion to the person standing with us on that special day. Do we really think enough about or believe that these vows, you remember? ” In Sickness and Health, For Richer for Poorer, Till Death do us Part” could be and often are, severely put to the test in later years. Staying the distance is what is important when things go wrong. I would never think a marriage without kindness ever worth saving, but supporting and caring for your loved one and loving, even when due to illness things fall apart and are no longer the same, or – ever likely to be the same again – IS.
Now that makes you proud, that is something worth celebrating! I am so lucky, to have been able to celebrate another special year with my Husband Hamada, although life is not quite the same …it is still very special. We have managed another year of married life together, when we thought on several occasions that because of his Multiple Myeloma www.myeloma.org.uk he would not be here and there would be No more celebrations of this, “A Very Special Day”
Lora Conrad 17 July 2009. Everyone should have the privilege of reading Susie’s poetry. They bring real life to the forefront. It’s not always what we wish for, but, facing life’s valleys and sharing them openly makes it easier for others to accept also.
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Congratulations, as usual, you say it all so well. Hope you and H have many more
Teresa
Charles NethawayThe most stark “modern” statement regarding marriage that I ever heard was from a grocercy clerk who said, while showing off her new, large engagement ring, “Well, if it doesn’t work out, we can always get a divorce.” And she was serious. So it’s nice to hear you voice what all of us ought to know: “for better and for worse, in sickness and in health, … ” Good show! As you know, we just had our 22nd anniversary six days ago. Seven of those years have had cancer as our companion.
Dianne West I agree … and understand. Our 40th is next month
Sometimes love comes to find you later in life, after you’ve stumbled and fallen and wondered if you dared to invest yourself in someone else… and getting older means most certainly it’s a whole lot riskier than the bloom of youth and hopefulness masking the future. But it’s worth it, isn’t it, to love and be loved and to take the chance for whatever the length of time is allowed? I think so.
I stumbled too Sandy, not finding my ‘one love’ until twenty nine years ago. I just feel we should always remember those vows, made in the flush of passion at any age, and the commitment that they bring when all does not ‘go to plan’ Oh yes Sandy, I would have taken one good week with my man and spent the rest of my life looking after him if that was what was needed. Life is always a risk but what would it be without Love?
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